we had a stroke….

May 17, 2012


He has a headache today and that makes me feel a little more like 96….I guess I automatically feed it into my worry list…..even though his blood pressure and  pulse are alright…”…just  a little headache…” he says…he who  seldom complains about anything serious. Now if we are talking about the doneness of string beans that would be another story…but complain about how he is feeling physically or emotionally……not very often.   And when he does…only to me…his wife of 40 years.   And 40 good years, I might add.   When asked how he is feeling he almost always says “OK.”  I just cannot seem to accept the OK anymore since his stroke last march……I read something into every ailment…..every extra blink…..every little lag in the left leg moving slower than the walker or easing off the side of his scooter.   It takes a lot of time to learn how to live

with the secondary effects of a major stroke…….and I don’t mean the ones affecting the primary victim…..I am talking about me…..I am talking about learning how to live with monumental change in the person who is your best friend.




About only66

leah is a published poemed story teller who earns her living as a faculty member in a college of nursing and as an aprn in psychiatric home care. she presents and lectures in the tristate area and lives with her husband and family in montclair, nj.
This entry was posted in Uncategorized and tagged . Bookmark the permalink.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s